On behalf of all survivors, let me just say this: if we could “just get over it”, we would. If we could snap our fingers and instantly make ourselves whole and healthy once again, we would do it. If we could wake up one morning, and find ourselves completely healed of our abuse, and completely free of the harmful effects the abuse had wrought on our lives, we’d do it. If there was a magic pill to take, or a certain food we could eat, or a spell we could cast, or a prayer we could say which would make it all go away instantly, I can’t imagine any survivor who wouldn’t at least try it once. The fact is, it’s too exhausting to live with the consequences of being abused. Depression, eating disorders, violence, generational abuse, panic attacks, and so on are all potential results of being abused; and why would anyone want to be plagued by such things?

Furthermore, the toll abuse takes in terms of survivors’ self-esteem is incredibly debilitating. Often times, even survivors who are relatively together are haunted by the nagging belief that they aren’t worthwhile human beings. And the supreme irony of it all is that, by and large, the abusers and perpetrators themselves NEVER take responsibility for cleaning up the mess they’ve left behind in their victims’ lives. It is the abusers who rip their victims apart, but the victims who must put themselves back together.

The backlash against survivors who dare to talk about their experiences is incredible. From well-meaning relatives or friends who hope to lessen the pain somehow by telling us, “It can’t have been that bad,” to death threats and stalking from abusers we’ve confronted, to organizations operating on a large-scale to debunk reports of abuse (such as the False Memory Syndrome Foundation) survivors are beset on all sides with walls of disbelief. We are accused of making it up, of being crazy, of being “oversensitive”, scorned, jealous, ungrateful, just out for attention, or any of a thousand demeaning labels which not only insult our individual persons, but also give no respect to the horrors we’ve survived, or the strength we have shown in doing so.

It is my personal opinion that people just don’t want to admit abuse exists. Sometimes, this is understandable. Sometimes, a person might have great faith in the goodness of humanity, and can’t even conceive of abuse as happening (or else, can’t conceive of it happening except “over there”, or “somewhere else”). Or perhaps they don’t want to imagine that abuse might have happened to someone they care about, and so they minimize it. Maybe, they even believe they are helping to relieve a survivor’s pain, by suggesting that the survivor focus on something else. Other people have a more vested interest in letting abuse happen. … The only acceptable reason for not stopping abuse is if you really don’t know that it’s happening — and this is extremely rare.) People who buy into an abusive system — say, overly macho or aggressive men, or very submissive women — might deny that abuse happens as well.

A good portion of college men apparently believe that there is no such thing as rape, and that it’s okay to have sex with a woman if she’s drunk or unconscious. (I say, if the only way you can get laid is with a woman who’s out cold, you’re probably the most pathetic a**hole that ever lived — and a criminal to boot.) Yet another group has a direct investment in whether or not abuse is revealed: abusers themselves. For one reason or another, abusers want to get away with it. Why? I don’t know. I’ve never been inside an abuser’s head, I’ve only been on the receiving end of their abuse. I don’t know what makes abusers tick — and in some ways, I hope I never find out. The bottom line is, this isn’t a very survivor-friendly world.

Yes, resources are out there. Yes, people know more about abuse and recovery than they ever did before. Yes, more strides are made daily, in healing and in research. Yes, we keep talking. But it isn’t easy. All of the above makes our lives very difficult. Add to this the reports of abuse which actually do turn out to be false, and it just adds one more wall — if one “victim” cries wolf, it makes those of us with true stories to tell that much more likely not to be believed. But talk we do, and talk we will. With our friends, our families, in books, in journals, through artwork, with therapists, online, on web pages and blogs… on and on and on. We have to.

For those of us who have suffered abuse at the hands of others, the only way out is by revealing what happened — bringing it out into the light, naming it for what it is, looking at it good and hard, assessing the damage done to our selves and our lives, and then assimilating the damage and moving on. No, there’s no overnight cure. No, we can’t just “snap out of it”. DUH! We have to talk, because if we don’t, abuse will never come to light, for anyone. It will continue breeding in the silence and shame, on and on, for generations to come, causing the same debilitation and hatred and confusion for future generations that it has to us. We have to talk, because we can’t let abusers get away with it anymore. The toll they take on all of humanity is simply unacceptable.

Article provided with thanks to: http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/

The former victims of predator Douglas Beckstead, Anchorage, Alaska, would like to take this moment to offer our heart-felt thanks and appreciation to everyone who has supported us over the past months since his exposure went online.

As we receive many emails everyday it is not possible to thank everyone individually.

We would like to make a special note of thanks to the sister sites who have offered many hours of support and helped us with legal issues as well as informative educational material. Most appreciated the teams at EOPC and The Exposer, without your continued support and assistance none of this would have been possible or as effective.

A special thank-you also to the many victims, ex-co workers and friends that have come up against Beckstead in the past and know full well what he is capable of. Telling your side of the story has helped validate ours and vice versa. As agreed where requested your details have been kept confidential. Of all the positive feedback we have received there was only one negative attack, apart from Becksteads own underhanded abuse and smear campaign he ran behind the scenes. Thankfully those that know Beckstead also know his words and know of his lies and excuses, they have heard it all one too many times before.

Exposure works. To anyone else out there who has a story about this predator or any other, speak out, don't be ashamed, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Predators like Beckstead take advantage of your kind nature and vulnerability, they use this for their own personal gain. You as a victim know the truth, stand by it and stand tall. Take back your dignity, you, as his or another predators target have done nothing wrong. We trusted in them and believed their lies, only we did not know they were lies until further down the line.

: Beckstead plays to prey

WARNING: If you you see this man dressed as Santa at a party/ work gathering/ mall near you DO NOT let your children sit in this predator's lap. He is a known sexual predator who likes to get his hands on young children and young teens. Please be warned Douglas Beckstead is NOT to be trusted. Please scroll down and take a close look at his pictures.

Predators try to scare victims into silence -- and it all ends up being NOTHING almost 99% of the time.

Nothing but grade school type attacks & name calling. Showing how low, immature and unable to be accountable they are. Beckstead tried to bully his victims into silence. When that failed he again used projection and word salad, he emailed some of his victims and grossly embellished on personal information (he loves to spread malicious gossip about you to his next target of choice). He tries to scare and shame his victims into submission by telling them that he has told everyone about "your" state of mental health - and then adds that "he is prepared to forgive you - because you can't help it". This was said to hopefully play on his victims emotions and reel them back in. This was said to also pave the way to allow him an excuse to everyone else out there to carry on abusing you and your trust and keep you under his control. Only unfortunately for Beckstead his victims could see through him and past his bully boy tactics. They did not "need him" the way he thinks they did. They did not "want him" the way he thinks they did. They are stronger, healthier and happier people now for not having this cretin in their lives.

: Beckstead travels to con

He will take a minor comment made and twist it to the point of being ridiculous, he is nothing but transparent. This is the same man who repeatedly accused his victims of suffering from "mood-swings", when in actual fact his emails show exactly who was swinging from the glory chandeliers one minute and draping himself in self-pity the next. Beckstead is the one required to take a myriad of meds to keep himself afloat. He is a screaming hypochondriac always vieing for your attention.

He accused many of his victims of having issues with him.

There was always an excuse from him, the woman went from being his everything "don't know what I would do without you and the kids in my life" to being "after him", "obsessed with him", "after his body" -yeah right. He called one "a radical lesbian", another one "biologically disturbed", one victims dog "attacked him" - he threatened to "sue"( after he sexually accosted the two young girls in the family & threatened to sue their parents because of the dog attack if they went to the authorities) ... you name it, he had a name and excuse for everyone of his former victims (including children) as to what, where and why they disliked him so. Could it not be for the simple reason that they found out who and what you truly are Beckstead? You have to ask the question, surely all of these people could not all be wrong about him, now could they? Lets not forget that most of these victims were and remain to be a class above him and only tolerated him because they thought he was genuine and sincere until the game playing on his part commenced. Once you start to realize and ask him questions, all bets are off.

Exposure HELPS victims on the healing path to first and foremost realizing that it was not you as the target and victims fault. It was never your fault, the onus lies with the predator. It helps you realise and validate your experience, especially when you meet others out there that have suffered a similar fate. If not at the same hand as your predator then a strikingly similar experience shared with another - all of these predators operate under the same guises. You are not alone.

: One Of The Many Disguises Of Douglas S. Beckstead

Exposure helps spread the word out there that we are not prepared to remain passive and let these predators get away with what they have done. Exposure makes these predators be held accountable for their actions. This in-turn helps you heal -with the knowledge that you are helping to save others from becoming victims.

It is not about revenge, it is not about a vendetta, it is about accountability, making them responsible one way or another it is about taking back your life.

It is about prevention, knowledge is key.

Exposure makes those not aware or perhaps not realize that online predatory behavior towards adults is becoming more prevalent out there on the internet. By exposing these predators we make a stand that this behavior is not acceptable.

Most certainly the predator will never admit to you or anyone else that they have committed any of these depraved acts against you. However, as proven over time, other victims will read your story - then they will come forward and tell you their story.

Validation = healing

Exposure warns others either involved with this predator or about to become involved with this predator, of what lies ahead. If exposure saves just one other person from riding that emotional roller-coaster ride to hell then it is worth it. Beckstead and those like him get their cheap thrills out of using you, "watching you squirm" was one of his favorite lines, often said to his victims as he prepared to play a nasty hand against a work colleague or someone else who dared stand out in front of his obese carcass. Watch out because he is warning you of what is yet to come your way, it won't be long before you too are suffering at his cruel hand of lies and deceit, in-fact from the word go he is lying to you.

Thank-you also to the many former victims of other predators who have shared their stories with us, who have encouraged and supported us. To the many other sites set up to expose these cretins in society, keep up the good work. Remember the best outcome you can have is success for yourselves, be happy in love and life as we have become.

Finally a big thank-you goes out to the National Park Services for making a stand against this predator who has abused you behind the scenes and used you for his own personal notoriety and attention. We know you have read what he wrote and we know you have witnessed the packages that were sent to your office in Fairbanks. We understand that some of you had your own personal grievances with this pathetic excuse of a person. Every action no matter how small helps stop predators like Beckstead in their tracks.

Beckstead at a now 50 years of age, who lies and brags about "serving in Iraq" (he was sitting passive, writing, safe behind a heavily guarded compound) has neither morals or conscience and no genuine care towards others. His only care is the notoriety and attention he can gain for himself. Any genuine person with a sense of humanity who claims to have witnessed the atrocities of war would show remorse and compassion. Beckstead is a cold hearted sociopath who is not capable of showing any humanity, he pretends, with his only goal intended - to serve himself.

As witnessed below Beckstead is still trying to impress and brag about another story using his former employers website at the NPS, to boast and brag about glories long since past him. Thank-you NPS for not being an enabler to this predator. Hat tip to a member of the armyairforces forum for bringing this to our attention.

Stay strong and be kind to yourselves,

The team @ Predator Alert 07

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Recent Alert: Facebook Users Beware

Doug Beckstead is now a member of and trawling the social networking site Facebook, looking for new targets:

Doug Beckstead - Facebook

Please beware this predator only has one thought in mind and that is what he can gain from using you and your family. He has no care or conscience of the lies he has told. He will fabricate and put down anyone who dares to speak out about him and there have been plenty who have come forward about this mans lies and head games - again thank-you all.

Also Beware of his "friend" Nancy Luecke Cusumano this abusive woman is Becksteads enabler.

: Beckstead's abusive, enabler (lies to cover his abuse) ... "friend" Nancy

She will claim to "know him" when she does NOT live in Anchorage, Alaska. Nancy has NOT had the daily contact with this predator, that he has had with his victims. She is overweight (tries to hide this) and incredibly immature for a 50 year old woman. Clearly it goes without saying she does not interest Beckstead sexually, he has other uses for keeping her in his good books. These become obvious with further reading and of course she has assisted him with his recent, new found interest in Facebook.

("Old friends" from highschool come in handy when noone else wants to know you eh Doug. )

It is worth mentioning that whilst Nancy verbally abused Becksteads former victims, resorting to unprovoked, childish name calling & claiming that "he does not know she contacted us", he was logging on and reading her attacks as they took place. Very sick and twisted but to be expected from a predator like Beckstead. Instead of taking the time to ask questions she has wrongfully accused and viciously attacked Becksteads victims. Some of these victims are children. This makes her no better than the likes of cyber-bully Lori Drew.

Nancy lives in Florida and Beckstead (Alaska) uses her to shore up his belief system, by enabling him to pretend to those not in the know that he is "a good guy" ... when nothing could be farther from the truth. For his efforts he scores a free holiday in Florida and gets to live large on her boat every once in an infrequent while - minus his wife. It is all about personal gain for Beckstead.

Our thanks goes out to the many concerned members of Facebook for forwarding on this important information.

BEWARE .... DOUG BECKSTEAD IS NOT NOW, NOR HAS HE EVER BEEN AN AIRMAN IN THE AIR FORCE. He is an historian from small town Anchorage, Alaska, and a PREDATOR. THE PICTURE BELOW IS OF HIM HAMMING IT UP BECAUSE HE CAN, BEING THE OPPORTUNIST THAT WE ALL KNOW HIM TO BE. HE USES THOSE WHO ARE NOT AWARE OF HIS PREDATORY WAYS TO FEED HIS NARCISSISTIC NEED FOR CONSTANT ATTENTION.